Love Is The Law

I may be taking this to levels that even I am not certain of, but this is the impression I get
You see nothing of God's personality in The Bible. 
What you see in The Bible is a burning desire for God to not be so far away from His creations.
What you see in The Bible are the consequences for not allowing God to have the throne of our hearts.
Adam & Eve's personalities are also not in The Bible.  Adam & Eve are not depicted as newborn babies at any point in scripture, but I get the impression from the small segment that illustrates the downfall of mankind that Adam & Eve were unwise.  They were innocent and naive.  They obtained knowledge of Good and Evil by following Satan's advise but they did not obtain the wisdom they'd hoped for.  If they'd obtained wisdom along with said knowledge they would have a much easier time choosing Good over Evil and instructing their offspring in doing the same.  Instead, they gave birth to the first murderer in human history.
God doesn't expect us to be unselfish.  If he expected us to not be selfish, he wouldn't bait us into obeying Him with promises of prosperity and good health.  He would maybe use that tactic to begin with, but he doesn't.  The tactic of GETTING SOMETHING IN RETURN is used all throughout The New Testament as well as The Old Testament.  What God hopes for and seldom receives is a lack of greed.  Greed is when someone has less than you and you do nothing to help despite your abilities.
Enjoying life is not the same thing as Greed.  "Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep".  Obviously, being not in the presence of weepers is not a sin otherwise we'd be weeping all of the time.  On the other hand, if God's people ever had succeeded in fully embracing The Great Commission, we wouldn't have an Earth to harbor weeping.  People would have their tears wiped away and any sadness left in them would be replaced by a warm fuzzy feeling that comes from knowing You care, but instead we go about our day trying to have a little bit of personal space.  Think about it --- why is this Earth still standing?  God doesn't expect it to just go on spinning for no reason.  It's The People on it that He's concerned about.
"The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance."  (NIV; 2nd Peter Ch 3 Vs 9)
  THANK YOU GOD FOR YOUR PATIENCE!!!!!!  When people say "We don't deserve Jesus", I usually intercept that as "We are not designed for demanding anything from God", because we as humans never DESERVED anything from God.  Adam and Eve never DESERVED breath in their lunges.  The angels never DESERVED their Heavenly duties.  We as humans are subject to God's will, even if we rebel against it.  He loves us, and always has. but now that I write this down in that way, it really does resonate in the belittling way that it comes across, and I can't help but tear up in sorrow and regret.  We not only DO NOT DESERVE salvation, but we HAVE EARNED fates far worse than the Promise of Jesus and the fulfillment of it.
I do still contend that God does not expect us to be unselfish.  However, our selfishness will be lavishly indulged when time comes to embrace our inclination to be selfish -- that time, of course, being The End Of Time as we, most societies on Earth, understand the definition of Time to be.